Destiny by Habit or by Luck?

As per Jim Rohn   Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.”

When one is committed to a vision or a mission  or a goal,   then one  pursues    that vision diligently, consistently  and then  slowly things change,   magic   begins to happen, you attract abundance,  universe helps you.   Your daily habits, discipline  and consistency start to attract beautiful things from the Universe , and quite suddenly,  you realize that all your dreams start becoming  true  , you attract  success and drive your destiny .

Some may attribute it to your being  lucky, others  may  say  that you  have a good lineage , or that  you are  blessed to be born rich, or extremely privileged and fortunate .  But you alone know the real truth of perspiring to see that all these happen to you .

Now let us start with  what  Success means to each one of us ? Is it having a thriving business, an envious  career, A happy marriage, wonderful children, happiness, joy and contentment , a wide group  of friends , a big social circle,  A fat bank balance ?       We may want  to say ‘all of it ‘  but does it really happen?

For  me,  I would  like to say that “Success is the achievement of something that , you have been trying to do,  or you dreamed  to become,  or you desired to possess.”

We observe that some succeed in their career, get elevated  to reach higher  posts, but  they fail in their relationships. Some have lavish business but most of what is earned is spent on the life style diseases that they encompass. It seems as if, to achieve something we have to forego something else, which is not necessarily true.   It only means that one has prioritized something above the others.

To have a harmonious and successful life, one needs to set goals in different  areas of one’s  life. This is also known as the  Wheel of Life Work,   which  comprises  of the following

  1. Career or Business
  2. Health and Fitness
  3. Finances
  4. Relationships and Family
  5. Recreation and Happiness
  6. Personal Development
  7. Spirituality and Community Welfare

So when we keenly observe people who have become successful and have been able to achieve balance and harmony  in their life, we can see that  they demonstrate  some  traits which are common.  They try to achieve balance and success by diligently pursuing  certain habits,  following certain principles in life  to become successful . It is  neither luck nor their lineage , but the way they   live their  life.

So let us see some facts to establish this

  1. Successful people wake up early,  follow certain  daily routines   with  discipline and keep  a system to track or monitor their habits. They are consistent and  work really hard,    and  expect  extraordinary performance from themselves. So they  expect  high performance from others too.   Repeated  too  often , high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays

Waking up early , performing   daily routines with  discipline, diligence and consistency,  does not sound like being Lucky , Right?

      1. Successful people are incredibly curious, eager to learn and take pride in being Life Long Learners (LLL). They study, ask questions, read constantly and keep themselves up to-date. An interesting point, to be noted    over here,  is that they apply  the knowledge  so  gained and  take advantage of what  they have learnt.                                                        Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, but it’s all  about being able to take information and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways. Successful people want and try  to learn everything about everything! If  you  observe many widely-admired business leaders like Elon Musk, Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Warren Buffett and Mark Zuckerberg  you may realize  that  they read  every day, learn  and apply their knowledge .

So summarizing these, successful   people are  curious/are  life long  learners/ eager to read/create/ build and  apply  the  knowledge so gained . Well this also  is not about  being lucky  but creating time and effort to learn  and apply .

  1. Successful people work on themselves, their personality, their leadership skills,    their management skills, their communication skills, technological skills,  their relationships, their fitness, their finance   and every other aspect  of  their life.  They   look out for  opportunities  and learn from their mistakes                                                                                                                                                     When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they learn from their slipups, and then they  strive  to do  better next time.  Successful people don’t tolerate flaws, They work on themselves,  fix the flaws,  perform even better but  never quit! 

As Bill Gates mentioned  in his book Business @the Speed of Thought, “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.”  The majority of unhappy customers don’t enjoy being unhappy: Something about the company, product, or customer service experience made them that way. What  this imply is that    even when customers complain, by getting to know the reason  for their   unhappiness, you can learn and improve your product or service. So  let us ponder  on whether  we are  prepared to learn from every opportunity that is presented to us and learn even from our mistakes.

Summarizing   this  point it is clear that   successful people  work on themselves, their personality,   leadership skills,  management skills,   communication skills technical  skills, relationships, their fitness, finance and learn from their mistakes . This   narrows down to the fact that this is another quality    of acquiring required skills  and  learning from mistakes  and definitely not Luck right?

4. Successful people take 100 % responsibility for their actions and are self reliant.. Incredibly successful people don’t worry about blame. They don’t blame others,  don’t make excuses and don’t waste time if something does not work according to their plans, they take appropriate decisions and move on.

You would have observed people making excuses when they are late or when they are unable to execute properly, or when things go wrong . They blame, complain or make excuses unlike  successful people who are not bothered about criticism or being judged by others.    They are usually relaxed and keep their own perspective

Even in times of stress or turmoil, highly successful people keep their balance,

They rarely panic or make impulsive decisions.   They never seem rushed, and   get a lot done in limited time by taking full advantage of each day without wasting  time but   asking the right questions,

As a summary we can notice that exceptionally successful people take the initiative,  accept 100% responsibility, don’t blame , complain or make excuses, and are not bothered about  criticism or being judged by others    They rarely panic or make impulsive decisions .    They   utilize  time optimally  and make sound decisions, even in a crisis,  qualities  imbibed over a period of time  not   specific to Luck

  1. Highly successful  people  “look over the horizon” to see the future. They observe trends, notice the changes and  the shifts  taking place and hear the nuances that others  fail  to see. When advances in  technology or a new competitor in the market  or a change in the economic  or political situation requires an adjustment to be made , they are the first and quickest to Extremely successful people live in the present, with one eye on the future!  . They know that “Now” is the only time that     they can control.


  1. The most important  trait  I have noted  is that    they   are  extremely Passionate, Persistent, Perseverant,  Positive,  Purposeful ,Practical,  Laser focused on Priorities,   disciplined  and  committed to their Goals and  take required actions in time  to achieve them .


  1. These traits work together in combination, giving successful people a huge advantage repeatedly. Because they are insatiable learners, they can respond wisely to the Because their personal relationships are strong, they have good advisors, and a reserve of goodwill when things go bad.    Because  they  pursue their habits diligently , they build the right muscles  , strength and stamina to face any situations,   which  help them to overcome any obstacles  and become  persistent and perseverant  to achieve their goals  and become successful.

And finally, none of these traits are genetic!     They can be learned! They are free and they are skills,  one  can use and start  immediately to become successful,

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